Wednesday, January 02, 2008
pregnant teenagers
Thanks to the 2007-2008 seasonning holidays, I have gotten the chance to observe some others' such as many homeless , drunks, illegals, white trashes,etc... and teenager preganants or parents.
I was more concerned about the youngesters who were already parents or going to be ones. I recall in one instance , I met a very very young girl with 3 kids while pregnant with another one. I thought it wasn't right. I thought it shouldn't be that way. I thought she was too young to be a mother at first place. I thought about her children, about the future of her relationships etc.
The most striking thing was that all I was observing was inside the USA, and not in a third world country in which people are less informed or educated about physical, social , psychological health and humanities!!! so it was too hard for me to digest or grasp what I was observing.
I was thinking all the time, "what's the difference ?"
Maryam.
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At the weekend I oserevd a very young woman in a restaurant with a young kid. What struck me was how much time and how attentive she was to the kid. She seemed like a real good mum.
Whilst it may impact a lot like future relationships, I am not convinced age impacts quality of parenting.
Happy New year!!
:-)
Posted by: kahless | Wednesday, January 02, 2008
I think it does Kahless while I agree psychological maturity has nothing to do with people's actual age.
and there is always exceptions in human's interaction or social lives.
all the best,
Maryam.
Posted by: mariam | Wednesday, January 02, 2008
I think there might be a difference in the reason as far as US and third world countries. In third world countries there is widespread poverty and lack of educational opportunities, birth control, etc. In the US I think this kind of thing is more likely to come from some personal problems or dysfunction in the family of origin moreso than from society norms.
Welcome back.:-)
Posted by: Lynn | Monday, January 07, 2008
What a nice surprise. Considering the time I was away, I thought I would get no comments at all.
hello Lynn,
Yes obviously access to birth control supplements is far easier and available in countries such as the USA. But yet, our teens hardly use them.
oh well !!!
Maryam.
Posted by: Maryam | Monday, January 07, 2008
I think that you can look at your observation in more than one way.
Definitely looking at it from another perspective is that we are getting our children exceptionally late in our lives nowadays. The age that women are getting their first child is (still) rising in the western world. One could put the question if this really is a good thing.
A given fact is that breastfeeding at an early age protects women from getting breast cancer at a later stage in their lives. So biologically speaking we might be getting our children too late in live, and this woman with her four kids did do the right thing.
Posted by: warmhart | Friday, January 11, 2008
Thanks for your comment warmhart,
I'm not a physician or a researcher , so I'm not sure what age is an old age for a woman to breastfeed her child while I'm pretty much sure each person varies from the other.
I do not think a woman's breastfeeding ability in general would go astray if she has a baby let's say in her 25th instead of 16th years of age.
oh well.
thanks for your comment again.
Posted by: mariam | Saturday, January 12, 2008
My M.A Thesis titled " "Heterosexual Women's Sexual Politics Typology" is one of the very first and few studies on this subject in Iran. Carrying out such a research in the still very conservative society of Iran was indeed a challenge. This endeavour has given me a new insight into my society and how it is segregated through and formed around gender issues.I am also a T.A trainee and interested in working in this field in the future.would you please give me any suggestions about this field in us.
Posted by: hoda mobasseri | Sunday, January 27, 2008
Hello Hoda,
I thought your thesis title was an interesting one.
I think women are yet challenging societies for their rights even in the US. It is my understanding that women in general struggle with if they are different from men.
I'm not sure what kind of suggestion are you asking for. The 2008 US president election holds a femlae candidate which i think is awsome. I wonder if it ever happens in Iran.
I recall they always said that women are the less intellect in Iran, and I doubt it has changed.
Posted by: Maryam | Monday, January 28, 2008
Hi nice thoughts, I wonder if you could follow up some of your posts, how was the conference, did the guy from the laundrette ever call you (he sounds way too forward to be trusted by the way!)
I'd just like to see some continuity here as your stories are interesting!
Good luck x
Fari
Posted by: Fari Bradley | Tuesday, February 05, 2008
Hello Fari,
I appreciate your comment as I find it helpful. Since you left me a finger print, I did check up on your bolg. I was amazed with the audio products you held.
I suppose I could write a blog on any of the points or questions you brought to my attention, and I think I may.
thanks for visiting and leaving me your comment.
Maryam.
Posted by: Maryam | Sunday, February 10, 2008
I think part of the reason is cultural...in some American social groups, having children at a young age is acceptable and desired.
In other cases, some girls might have a sense of estrangement from their parents and families and seek to forge a new familial bond which they can 'control'.
In yet other cases, the girl falls 'in love' with her boyfriend and seek to have his child, and hopes to perhaps solidify his involvement in her life as both a romantic and parental partner. Often, this backfires and she's left alone to raise the child whom she may later resent as a 'mistake' from a more youthful period of misjudgment and strong emotions.
Both sexual maturity (not emotional maturity) and physical desire seem to strongly surge during the teen years. You can thank genetic heritage for that, as for most of human history, males and females coupled and bred at very young ages...they had to...infant mortality, child mortality were high...life expectancy in general was low. After we convince ourselves that our social norms and traditions are ruling over us...nature laughs and trumps our good intentions all the time. That's not easy to counter against.
Information on sexuality and contraception options are still scant in America. Yes, most schools will teach the basics regarding reproduction, but for a combination of political, legal and social reasons, sexuality is not much discussed between young and old; so many young people are left to 'figure things out on their own' without much information or guidance from more experienced elders.
Young people are more emotionally impulsive and it doesn't help that American culture is highly sexualized, even though, in most cases, it's only meant to grab attention and stimulate people long enough to sell them toothpaste on TV or a magazine ad.
On a lighter note...it's Valentine's Day and I'm certain some new teen pregnancies are getting underway right now... ;)
Posted by: Mr. Bridge | Thursday, February 14, 2008
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